I am ready for LOVE, or am I??

I am back, and more motivated than ever!

So, how do you know when you are ready to love again? This is really a loaded question. I think many times we think we are, but our hearts are really not ready. As a single mother, reacting too soon could be dangerous.

I was chatting with a good friend, who is also single, and she explains that she is ready to love again….

Let’s pretend that you have gone through a terrible break–up, and you have allowed yourself six months to get over this person and the past relationship, but it is always on your mind. I would say this person is not ready. What are your thoughts?

The advice around probably sounds like this: “Girl, all you need is another man to come in and get your mind off the old news!” For many women, this is probably sound advice, but for some it could be dangerous. What could happen - you could confuse a rebound relationship with one that you think is a new start with a new guy that appears to have great potential. You will either be stuck in an uncomfortable relationship with someone that you don’t like and is completely wrong for you, or you could send misleading messages to someone who is ready for a “real” relationship – we all know how bad that could turn out (Yikes!). Did you hear about the man, here in Texas, that killed is so-called girl friend, cut her up, and barbequed her! Ok, play with him if you want to – I have plenty of black dresses.

Anyway, my advice – if anyone is interested – is to be cool and wait until you’re ready for love. It will be around the time that you enjoy being single. You will say things like, “I don’t care if I ever see him again, I am having a fantastic time!” and you will mean it.