No Strings Attached

I have talked to several women who have tried to take a shot at these so called “no strings attached” relationships, and most agree that they do not work. I’ll be the first to admit that I have tried and failed at this tricky type of dating. However, in my experience, these types of relationships have proved to be somewhat successful – eventually!

Here’s the scenario:

A fine sexy specimen approaches and admits to be very attracted and interested, but somewhat unavailable. You – somewhat attached and unavailable yourself is also attracted and interested in getting to know him better. The two of you manage to start a dating relationship, and in your private time together, act as if you are a real couple. The difference, so far, is that there is no real strings attached – you don’t question him and he does not question you. In fact, you have no clue what this person does or is when he is not in your presence. One likely reason this relationship has worked out thus far is there is no reason to argue.

But let’s be real, how long will this last before you are loving his dirty ‘draws’ and want to know more about him and what he does when you are not around. Better yet, how long before you are following him to his usual hangouts to make your presence known to his friends. Now here is where the drama begins to unfold. He is not your man and you have been cool with that all the way up until now when you are out, on his turf, and feel slightly disrespected when he is about business as usual. In your mind, and understandably, you feel like there are still lines that should not be crossed in your presence. Trust me he would feel the same way if the tables were turned. But now what; can you slap the hell out of him for talking to a girl or engaging in ‘cheating’ activities? No, but what you can do is use this situation to your advantage.

You know he is relationship material, and you know that he must feel the same way since he has been kicking it with you for some time. Now is the time to have an open and honest conversation about a real commitment; chances are he really cuts for you and does not want to see you go. So explain how you feel and insist on some guidelines. Hopefully at this point you both realize that you make a good couple and you should take your relationship to the next level. However, if he starts talking that ‘you knew what this was’ crap, tell his ass to kick rocks because what this really means is you are ready for a real relationship and he is not.